can't ssh into the box

Hi,
 
I've got everything up and running on my mac,  however,  I can't seem to ssh into the box.  Using network-manager,
I port scanned  localhost,  and I did see 22022.  However,  when I port scan the box from another machine,   only port 80 shows up (webserver I installed).  I installed gufw and the firewall is off.
 
(I tried this from the box itself as well  "ssh -p 22022 localhost"
 
but get this:

Read from socket failed: Connection reset by peer
 
 
I tried sudo service ssh start (or restart)  and a few reboots.
 
Any ideas?
 
thank you!